Let Go Of it.

Potential. Let go of it today. In relationship, it’s not love, empathy, or loyalty; it's a trap. People either show up or they don't. Potential means nothing without action.

If your partner isn't showing up with effort, honesty, and growth - you're not in a relationship - you're in a fantasy of who that person might be. Loving someone's potential is not the same as loving who they are. If you're waiting for someone's potential, let it go...

Potential is a projection. Hoping someone lives up to their potential is an excuse. It’s ignoring red flags, staying longer than you should, and focusing on fantasy, not reality. If you want a partner, look for someone who wants to be an equal partner; not the potential of someone who can’t actually show up.

In the beginning, ask questions. Make sure you both align. If you find that your shrinking yourself, your standards, your time, or your worth; you might be settling for potential. Loving someone's potential usually ties back to a wound inside of you. Your childhood roles may have you believing that you're only valuable when you help or rescue someone. Or you may struggle with the fear of abandonment disguised being loyal to a partner who is actually unavailable today.

Real partnership is about mutual and shared effort, actions, emotional availability, showing up daily. Loving someone's potential is a form of self-abandonment. If you're prioritizing who someone could be over your own needs; your making their "potential" more important than your own well-being. Do not stay in a relationship that isn't mutual. Be worth it to wait for someone who meets you today, not who might meet you in the future.

It’s ok to let go of potential. Instead, re-write the truth that society says: single = worthless. Your worth does not come from a relationship, it comes from how you truly feel about yourself from within. If your grieving a break up, it's ok to feel bad. Losing a future you imagined or wanted - hurts. It's ok to feel bad about not being chosen. But remember to re-write the script: I'm not single because I'm insignificant. I'm single because I'm not settling.

Heal yourself by asking how you can provide your own needs? Make your life rich with meaning, full of choice, lit up with curiosity, and dive into your personal freedom. Travel alone. Deepen your love for yourself. This is just a phase. You are already whole. And, if someone comes along, it'll be an addition, not a solution. Let go of potential. Take action and choose yourself.

The safest place to land, will always be the one you build within yourself...

Love always,

Happy Amy

Here’s some good luck to you…My first 4-leaf clover of 2025, in Pop's yard: