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Majority of the time, when things go wrong, it’s because my focus is off. I grew up in a world that was structured to believe that multitasking and doing a whole bunch of things is the way to get the results you want. You may think this is the way to get lots done too…

Recently, I’ve been reading a book called: The One Thing, by Gary Keller. It’s a genius idea he realized by watching the movie, City Slickers. It was a line from Curly that said you need to find the one thing, and do it. From that he’s found that piling things on top of yourself, your job, your partner, or any aspect of your life is going to result in nothing being done well. Multitasking is actually NOT the way to get anything done well. Multitasking actually hinders productivity. There is only one way to stop the repetitive cycle of never getting what you want.

Start with a list. List all the things that are important to you. Narrow the list down by prioritizing the absolute most important things. Keep narrowing your focus until the most important thing; is the only thing left, and do that ONE thing.

Dedicate yourself to that one thing. Do it, and do it 100%. You will absolutely get exactly what you want. And the minute you start to focus on other things on the list, you’re going to take away from the most important thing. Then you’re back multitasking and putting minimal effort into numerous things and not giving anything the required attention.

This may be contradictory to the way that you were raised, but multitasker’s are actually bad at everything they do. It’s because they’re not really doing anything well.

Try focusing for a day, and then try it for a week, and then extend to 30 days. I’m going to guarantee if you focus on the most important thing you will get it.

The reason I know this is because for the last, nine months, I have been focusing on me. I decided to take a look at all the things I was putting my attention to. I found that the last person on my list was myself. Most of the time the most undervalued thing in your life is most likely - yourself

I didn’t prioritize myself to be selfish, or avoid caring about others. I just realized that the thing that I was looking for came from feeling valued. After reading dozens of books and watching videos, most of the advice was centered around, giving yourself what you’re looking for from others. I began to take myself on “dates“ and turned my thinking around to believe that I was lucky to be able to spend alone time with myself. Passed Amy would have labeled it as being alone and missing something. Current Amy, who made herself the most important thing realize that being alone is a gift. It’s actually a very important and beautiful time to give yourself the value you’re seeking from others.

Focusing on myself has given me the one thing I was seeking from the outside: self-worth. Seeking self-worth from the outside is like multitasking. You will never get what you’re looking for because if your value comes from someone else, when they’re gone, you’re going to question where it went. True self-worth can only come from yourself.

The last nine months have been more about me than my whole life has ever been. Focusing on that one thing, and making it the most important thing, has changed what I need from others.

Now, I have a wealth of value inside of myself, I can focus on the next most important thing. And you would be wrong if you thought a new habit only takes 21 days. Please be ready for it to take a little bit longer. According to science, it takes 66 days to create a new habit.

So, if you choose to set a goal to focus on the one most important thing. Focus on it and give it 66 days. Remember, right off the bat you might not be good at sticking with it. That’s why it takes 66 days. Focus on the one thing and dedicate yourself to it. In doing this, you will be creating the ability to focus better.

When you focus better, you only have the most important thing to take care of. You will succeed and focusing on the most important thing AND it will become a natural habit. Sticking with something, the most important thing, will make the next most important thing much easier.

And remember, we’re Self-powered. I’m here to help you figure this out - together.

Love, always, Amy