Walk in someone else's shoes saturday

Attachment. I'm not talking about being attached "to someone," I'm talking about being attached to the way you want things to be. When we hold on to the way we want something to be, we're attached to it. Attachment makes sure we fight against everything that isn't exactly the way we think it should be. Today, walk in someone else's shoes and learn the art of letting go of attachment.

When I first started working with life coach Dr. Deborah, she told me to be aware of attachment when I spoke about what I wanted for my life. During that time, I resisted that notion. I gave myself credit for being open. I honestly didn't understand what she meant. Or maybe I did, but it went against what I wanted, so I shut it out? At the time, I wasn't open to thinking of attachment like I am today. It scared me. Letting go of what I wanted felt like failing. Today, I understand that what she meant was I was so wrapped up in what I wanted, I was missing everything else.

After the last year and a half, I can see very clearly what attachment is. It's holding so tightly to what we want, we're resisting everything else. Being attached resists peace. It resists new ideas. It resists new ways of thinking. It actually resists life and the art of living. Attachment is saying that what the "self" wants is the only thing there is. It shuts out the possibility of everything else. At one point, I wanted my world just the way I wanted it. That way of thinking gave me good reason to move past certain things, move past certain people, and keep searching. I wasn't aware that wanting life to be the way I wanted, was putting myself in a prison. Life is rarely what we want it to be. I'm learning now that letting go of this one certain way things should be, is taking the chains off my world. I do not have to carry around the exact idea of what should be happening at all times. I can let go of forcing my will on life. I can still have desire, but it's a desire to see what life brings my way. It's letting go of this narrow picture of this one way I want life to be and letting in the limitless options of what could happen.

It takes time to change the way you think and you must be willing to accept a world of infinite possibilities instead of a world of one narrow view. When you let go of the attachment to the way things have to be, I guarantee; the things that do happen will be even better than you could imagine...