Who Asked You Anyway?

If I could start over and make corrections to my life, I would have finished college earlier, gone into the military, wrote my book sooner, and trained for the Olympics in freeski slopeside to name a few.

Some other things I wished I realized sooner would have been some personal changes. Looking back, I would have spent more time alone learning more about myself and who I am alone.

From a young age, most people strive to be in relationships. Relationships are where lots of us find our worth. What our significant other thinks of us becomes the only thing that matters. Think back to when you were in high school and remember that boy or girl you fell for? Did their attention mean everything? Did you lose yourself in their activities? Or did they lose themselves in you? What if we all missed the greatest relationship there ever was? The one with yourself?

If I could do it all again, I would have traveled alone and built a life full of MY passions. I would have tried so many things! Skiing, hiking, reading more, singing, playing guitar, traveling, and God only knows! I would have learned more about me. What made me happy, what foods I liked, and discovered the places I loved to be in. I would have made a bond with myself that was so strong, I would have found my worth inside of me instead of looking for it FROM other people.

The truth is, who asked me anyway? No one asked and you don’t have to take my advice. God knows I may not even take it either… But if you did ask me, I would go back and do it all over again. But that’s not the way life works. For that reason, I strive to learn about myself today. My van has given me the ability to go anywhere and have a comfy place to sleep when I get there. I am so thankful for the difficult times in my life that forced me into being alone (even if I didn’t feel that way at the time). My alone times were gems. They were the times where I nourished my wounded heart and learned to feed my own soul. I lived 44 years before I knew I was a fool for skiing and winter. Those two things are two of my favorite outcomes of being alone.

Here’s some advice you can take along with you: spend time alone. Get out of your comfort zone. If you can, take some time off from being in a relationship. I challenge you to find out who you are and what you don’t even know that’s missing from your life. Who are you without anyone else’s input or direction? Find the YOU inside of yourself.

Be happy, find your own worth, and remember: life is out there waiting for you, to happen to it!

~ Happy Amy

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