Would A Break Save It?

I hit a deer with my van a couple weeks ago. I was driving home at twilight. You know, when the sun is almost down, but it’s not dark yet. My van is old. The lights are just a little brighter than small candles and I couldn’t see anything. Out of nowhere came a deer running like a bat outta heck! I veered to the left and my van took the deer to the passenger side headlight…

If you know me, you know I LOVE my van. I love it so much, I call him Mo. My Mo was broken. The first thing I do when something bad happens? Find something be thankful for - which was there wasn’t a car in the fast lane next to me (because I would have hit it and maybe this accident could have been WAY worse). Next, learn the lesson…

I felt like the lesson came out to be two things. 1. Not driving my van at twilight, and 2. relationships. Not driving at twilight is now going to be a no-brainer. If I would have pulled over and took a break until dark, my van would have been fine. A break would have avoided the wreck. Not only that, now that I’ve been without my van for almost a month - and I miss it! I miss Mo so badly! I’m lost without it! It is my source of fun, freedom, and the independence to live life as fully as possible. Losing my van made me appreciate it so much more…

For some reason this made me think about relationships and marriage. Marriages have a 50/50 success/failure rate. Divorce happens because things get so bad, they’re unrepairable. And - so many people I talk to don’t even realize that they play a major part in the divorce. It doesn’t matter if you were the problem, or you let the problem go on too long…

So, what if, before the darkness, in the twilight time of relationship or marriage; two people took a break. What if they pulled over and rested? What if a break gave both people a chance to think about things? Do you miss each other; or do you realize you do not align? What if a break didn’t break anything and actually gave time to avoid the crash altogether…?

Love always,

Happy Amy